Archive for January 28, 2011

HELP!: For “Maybe Mover”

Posted: January 28, 2011 in HELP!

Dear Rocker Stalker,

I was in bands for about 10 years… a solo artist, a keyboardist in a South Florida band, and a lead singer and songwriter in a touring band.

I moved to New York three years ago and have only played one show (a reunion with one of my old bands) and have only recorded one song since I moved here. I find that it is extremely difficult to harvest my own creativity in a city where there is both brilliance and bullshit in every corner.

I really want to move- but do you think that the lack of creativity is just part of growing up or do you think that if I moved somewhere a little slower paced with a little more space I could find myself playing music again? I feel like New York has made me super jaded and every time I  sit down to play music I just become frustrated.

Help! Is it just me or does New York suck a lot?
Dear Maybe Mover,

Sorry I had to give you a cheesy alias…Anyway, to move or not to move? That is a TOUGH question! I’ve encountered several talented, artistic individuals who, like you, are fed up with NY’s pressured, fast-paced, overly-competitive environment, so you’re not alone in your desire to seek shelter from the sucky storm. My feelings about this are many fold, just like your reasoning for relocating.   If it’s merely the city’s attitude and claustrophobia at the roots of your dilemma, then of course, find another locale that suits your needs and does you well.  You may not want to uproot your New York foundation completely or immediately, especially if you have other jobs or projects brewing in the city, but make sure you’re SUPER clear on the cause(s) of your frustration. As for your perceived “lack of creativity,” it may be a phase, as you alluded, and you can either wait for it to possibly pass or take a chance and change your surroundings. OR, perhaps you can meet up with your old band for more renunion shows, collaborate with local musicians who are on the same page as you, or take an extended vacation to a more relaxed atmosphere to jam/write  and get your creative juices flowing again? The process for making your ultimate decision may take a little more time and some steps, but I think if you focus on your efforts and creativity, the “bullshit” that is raining on your parade may dissipate.

Best of luck with whatever you decide! I salute you, fellow lady of rock!

Ex’s and Oh’s.